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Here at AskMen, we’re all about helping guys. But sometimes advice from onedude to another can only go so far. That’s why we decided to go straight to thesource to find out what the world’s hottest women actually expect from us.This week, we asked adult actress and soon-to-be Bollywood star Sunny Leonewhat she looks for in guys. Hopefully her answers make the female sex a little lessmysterious. If anything, we’ve learned that humble guys aren’t necessarily less attractivethan cocky guys. What would you say that women look for most in aguy?We usually use our minds and hearts when we think about being attracted to aman. When a man is funny and smart and very in tune with women’s needs it’s a huge plus inany woman’s books. Even though we’re a real women’s rights generation, all women really dowant a gentleman. I think that [the gentleman] is coming back. Bestcompliment? It’s usually when somebody tells me that I’m not just apretty face. I run my own production company and I always find it very endearing whensomeone says, “Oh wow, you’re not just someone who looks good, you’re actually a niceperson who’s honest and genuine and smart.” What’s the biggestgrooming mistake a guy can make?Shaving everything off. Everywhere.Guys, go get laser. Us girls are so sensitive to everything that comes near our bodies.We’re always so soft. Even if we don’t shave for a day, we’re still soft. It’s not likethat coarse, thick hair that gives us razor burn. What’s your biggestturn-on?Someone who has their own style. I love that. Someone who isreally, really smart, and that doesn’t need to be book smart — smart in their own way.How they talk, how they function, how they run their work life. What’syour biggest turnoff?A guy who wears too much cologne.Do you think it’s appropriate for men to wear jewelry? Um, I don’t know. I’m the kind of girl that likes a guy that has a sense of stylewith whatever they’re doing, whether that’s wearing necklaces, bracelets, earrings,whatever. So if it’s part of their sense of style, that’s fine. Wouldyou date a guy who made less money than could comfortably support a family? When you’re with somebody you have to be compatible in every way. If I had aboyfriend who worked his ass off, but didn’t make as much, I think I’d respect that. Who’s sexier: the macho Alpha guy or the scruffy Beta guy?I like the scruffy guys better than the jock.Who should pay onthe first date? A man. I always offer, that’s always been my thing,but deep down inside I’d expect him to do that. I come from an old-school mentality.That’s what my dad would do, my grandpa would do, my brother would do. I was just broughtup in a way where that’s what a man should do, at least on the first date anyway. Would you care if a guy picked you up for a date in a garbage-strewnbeater? If that’s the only car he had, then I guess that would befine! I obviously like him if I’m going on a date with him. He might have a Maserati inhis garage and he’s just testing me out.

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Q. Hi, I’m sort of in a complicated situation and in need of some advice. There’s this girl I’m really interested in (I’ll call her Lisa), and I knew her for about 7 years (I’m 22), but we’ve just recently got close (4 months now) and are in the same circle of friends.About 2 months ago, it seemed like she was really interested in me, and we had a lot of nice chats, etc.But a few weeks ago, I think one of Lisa’s close friend (Cindy) told her that she was interested in me. Now, being a nice/sorta shy girl, Lisa seems to be backing up and I feel she tries avoiding me sometimes.. while Cindy is starting to be a lot more friendly and tries to spend more time with me.

I’m the type of guy that sticks to one girl I like, and nearly ignore all other girls.. So I would still like to go for Lisa. Now her birthday is coming up in just a few weeks and im not sure if I should do something to give her a clear hint that im interested in her, or if I should hold back and see if anything will happen naturally over time. (sorta doubt this will happen ‘cuz of the situation with Cindy). Lisa doesnt seem to show as much interest in me as before, while Cindy seems to try talking to me more often, as well as hanging out with me. Plus, I know they have “girl talks” with each other.. and Cindy tells everything while Lisa mostly listens.

I’m just not sure her birthday is an appropriate time to make my move since.. lately, Lisa hasn’t been showing as much interest as before

Lastly, I’m sure there’s at least one other guy that seems to be interested in Lisa.. but I dont think she wants to be anything more than friends with him.. I’m mentioning this just in case (sorta feel rushed, since I really like her and dont want to lose her to some other event that could happen).

please help, thanks.

A. Ah, two women to choose from. Hang on while I play a little sad violin for you….

Okay, now let me see if I can help you out of this dilemma ….

First of all, keep in mind that things don’t just happen ‘naturally.’ If you want something to happen, you must be willing to take action. Things don’t improve by default, they improve by design. So if you want something to happen with you and Lisa, you’ll have to take a risk and make an advance. If she’s interested, she’ll respond. If she doesn’t (no matter what reason you can invent for her not taking action) she is not REALLY interested. The bottom line is the result you get, and if she doesn’t respond, you can blame her shyness, or whatever, but the reality is that you don’t want a woman who can’t act on her desires (any more than she would want a man who wouldn’t act on his.)

Next, you sound like you’re in a hurry. In fact, you mention you feel in a rush. Why? It’s been 7 years. What’s the hurry? If something were going to happen, a few more weeks wouldn’t make a difference at this point.

Also, you state that you are “the type of guy that sticks to one girl I like, and nearly ignore all other girls.” I don’t know what your reason is for making this your identity, but I can only tell you that it will cause you much more pain in your dealings with women than it will help you.

1) Your single-minded focus will come across as smothering and obsessive on that one woman. (They can smell this a mile away, and it’s a BIG turnoff.)

2) The confidence you exude when you date more than one woman will rub off, and you’ll experience even more success with the ones you decide are a priority. Success breeds success.

3) Women may lead you to believe (by subtle comments and cultural stigma) that they don’t want a man who dates many women. Nothing could be further from the truth. They are attracted to a man that is in demand. Now, if you settle into a regular relationship, they will want you to stick with just one. But that’s your decision.

So, what advice do I have for you? In addition to the above, here’s my recipe of action:

- Call up Lisa, ask her out to something short, sweet, and fun. At the end of the date, bust a move — kiss her at the end. If she resists or balks, find out what her objections are. If they can be overcome, go on. If it’s too complicated, then on to …

- Call up Cindy. Same plan.

- Call up next girl. Same plan.

- Repeat until goal is reached.

It sounds like Lisa’s interest is low — probably because you two have been friends for so long, and she isn’t going to jeopardize that — and that you should set your sights on someone who is interested — Cindy.

BIG POINT: And you might notice that Cindy is probably keeping a high interest level because you are NOT focusing all your energies on her. You’re probably a little aloof and ignoring her — and she responds to this. Lisa probably would, too. See how this works? This is why the ones you want always keep you at a distance while the ones you don’t want are flocking in the wings.

The Bottom line? There are too many girls out there to get too hung up on one. Think of how foolish you’ll feel in six months if you look back and see all the precious time you wasted on women who weren’t interested. The time to act is now!

[Source: Random Thoughts on Dating and Relationship]

The niceguy is actually giving up control over his life to the women he wants to date.He’s too scared to live his own life, too scared to do what he wants to do. Womendon’t want power over a man like that. What women want is a man. They want a leader — agreat guy who will lead them. A guy who, when he dates them, takes them places and takescare of things his way, who stands up for who he is and will debate her on topics if hedoesn’t agree with her.Nice guys never stand up for themselves, becausethat’s what nice guys do — they don’t believe they can get women. They’ve got thisfear that they can’t get the woman they truly want, so they take whatever they canget. They literally beg their way into a relationship. And a woman knows that from thereon, she basically has him by the balls.

Be A Great Guy, Not A Nice Guy

If you’re nice, that’s great, but what you really want to be is a great guy. You want tobe a man who treats people well and also stands up to his own principles. You want to be aman who stands on his own two feet and isn’t afraid to stand up to a woman just becausehe’s attracted to her. You want to be a man who leads, a man who decides if he wantsto pursue the relationship or not, not a nice guy who tries to conform to her wants everywhich way and puts himself in the beggar’s role. Nice guys are beggars. Great guys arecatches.To get there, you have to truly believe it. You have to live your lifein a way that you truly want and not give it up just to make your date happy. You have toknow that you are a great, interesting person to date, that you can get the women youwant and that you can get laid when you want. Women want to be with a guy whoknows he can actually get laid by other women but chooses to be with her. Womendon’t want to be with a guy because she is his only option.Ifyou’re nice at heart, you’re nice. You treat people well. Embrace it –it’s a great quality to have. Don’t hide it by playing games and trying to bea bad boy. But what you need to do is be a great guy. Don’t be nice just to get awoman to like you. It never works.For more dating advice, checkout DavidWygant’s guide on how to seduce.
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